Fight Fairly!

Your brain has two sides, each with specific tasks to perform. The right-hand side has a very small region called the amygdala which does many things including producing emotional reactions. The left-hand side of the brain is primarily for problem solving.



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Shoot Em' Down, Turn Around And Win Your Man Now!

Are those fighting words? You betcha! Found Mr. Perfect only to learn there is a line waiting? Time to shoot down the competition, turn around and get to the front of the line!



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Getting That Special Guy's Attention - How to Become His Miss America!

There really is a method to this madness of getting the attention of a guy you just know is special to you; and making him agree that you are the best choice to become his Miss America. You need to do a little research if possible!



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Forgiving the Unforgivable Act

We have all been and will be transgressed to the point of experiencing an unforgivable act against us. We will all be hurt beyond that which we can, of ourselves, recover. We all experience resentment for those things done against us.



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Getting More Intimacy and Attention From Your Partner

Have You and Your Partner Grown Distant? As the years go by, you may feel like your spouse or partner no longer feels that you are attractive or significant. In fact, you may feel like just about everything and everybody else is far more appealing than you are in your spouse's or partner's world.



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The Honest Truth About Lying and What To Do About It

We lie most of all because there is this gap between our wishes and fantasies. If we can connect with those conscious and unconscious wishes and fantasies, we are most likely to be able to spot the liar in them and us.



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Relationships: What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Too Busy?

Just because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn't mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of.



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How Controlling Others Controls You

How are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? What are the consequences of this?



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You Lied - You Didn't Want to Hurt Me - What It Really Means

I lied, I didn't want to hurt you. How young were you when you heard these words? It typically happens when we have 'caught' someone we cared about and trusted... lying. And so the words, "I didn't want to hurt you." What is this really about? Like most mysteries in life, the truth lies at the beginning; you have to unravel the story behind the words.



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Feeling Supported By Supporting Others

CHURCHES, it can seem, are full of people who feel unsupported, and even let down by their pastors. A classic irony is pastors often feel just as unsupported. Feeling unsupported is linked with isolating behaviour, which leads to depression. We must continue, continually, to thrust ourselves into the loving of lives. When we support others we often feel most supported ourselves.



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When the Truth Is Spoken In Love

I HAD THE MOST UNUSUAL encouragement recently. Part of my job, at the time, I was not doing so well in. When two people approached me, and had the courage and love to come and confront me about it (speaking the truth in love), I was brought face to face with a humiliating reality. They weren't there to seek my help, for me to minister with them, as most people did. They were there to rebuke me.



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The Longing for Connection and Closeness

There is a longing for connection and closeness in everyone. This truth can be powerfully known in the needs of an elderly person with advanced dementia, but their need merely speaks of a common need that functional adults can so easily repress.



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Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them?

While some people will only know what it feels like to be with someone who can love them, there are going to be other people who only know what it feels like to be with someone who can't love them. And this is going to mean that each person has a radically different experience on this planet.



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Assertive Women: Are YOU Willing to Be One?

Bitch or doormat. That covers a lot of territory. Where does assertiveness lie on this continuum?



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Jailor or Partner - Are You Being Too Possessive in Your Relationships?

Have you ever wondered if you are too possessive? Do you find yourself wanting to control how much time your partner spends with his or her family and friends? Remember, you will never have a phenomenal relationship until you learn to embrace your own inner power, which is the healthiest and most fulfilling power of all.



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Relationships: Why Does 'Treat Them Mean And Keep Them Keen' Work?

Although some relationships are healthy, there are others that are completely dysfunctional. And when this is the case, they no longer have the ability to transform one's life and to assist in their personal evolution.



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Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour?

While relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship.



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Forgiveness, the Antidote to the Poison of Bitterness

WITHHOLDING FORGIVENESS, even to the point of a delay, to entertain bitterness on the patio of sullenness, is to take a poison of choice. That poison is anger. The antidote for anger is forgiveness.



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Five Steps to Romance

With so many self-help books out there I am amazed at just how inept people are at the dating game. Being straight, I only speak for the heterosexual population of course. On current evidence, we heterosexuals are really, really bad at opening up and sharing. At any rate, we European heterosexuals are no good when it comes to sharing emotions.



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The 5 Stages Of A Relationship: What Stage Are You In?

The length of each of these states of a relationship can vary depending on the maturity of those involved. Empower yourself with the knowledge that each one of these different stages of a relationship will bring and you will empower your relationship.



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Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends?

While some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not always important.



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Is Chemistry Real? Reigniting the Fire in Your Love Life

While all the naysayers remind us that chemistry is not the basis of a good foundation in our relationships, it is undeniably the fuel that caused the explosion of feelings when we 'fall in love' with someone. It is important, in fact, it is vital if we are going to fall hard into what we believe is the magic in our life. Can we get it back?



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Oh, How Life Changes

Remember when you were born? Remember when you grew up? Remember life?



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Can We Run Out Of Love?

"Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Love never decreases by being shared. ~Chinese Proverb There seems to be a myth that love is scarce - that there is only so much to go around.



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Getting Your Guy Back - Is It For The Right Reasons?

Surviving a break up can be a true heart wrenching experience regardless if you broke up with him or he broke up with you. There is just no way around it; it will have an impact on your life.



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Cleaning It All Up

Last week I strongly encouraged a client to do something that she was dragging her feet about doing for over a month. I pushed her harder than I ever had for the simple reason that she was having consistent little breakthroughs with various relationships and I knew, in my gut, a big circumstance in her life that needed cleaning up would open the door for a huge breakthrough with a particular person in her life.



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Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns?

Just because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn't mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to complain about.



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Are You Too Focused On Finding Mr Right?

Trying to find someone perfect can be dangerous and disappointing. Here's a helpful perspective to finding joy... and your man!



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Can I Really Improve My Relationship If I Attend Counseling Alone?

Many people have the impression that couples counseling can only be effective if both partners attend and participate. Not so!



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When You Love Someone Who Doesn't Love You - Do You Die A Little Every Day?

When did it happen, how did it happen; you are in a relationship that you think is wonderful and then you realize, the one you love, doesn't love you back? Is it a sudden realization? How do we know, and what do we do?



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Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Abuse?

While some people feel comfortable with relationships that are healthy and functional, there are other people who feel comfortable with relationships that are unhealthy and dysfunctional. There are going to be people who have relationships that are unhealthy and they are aware of this. And there are going to be other people who have relationships that are unhealthy, but are not aware of it.



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Women - Allow No One To Take You For Granted

Women, it is better to be single, while working on your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual growth, than it is to be in a relationship where you are over-looked as if you are an over-emotional, temper-throwing child who should be ignored until the adults are ready for you. It doesn't matter who fought for you as a woman to have rights, you are a human being and no one should feel that they have a right to relegate you to the back seat until you have calmed down and until they are ready for you.



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5 Ways To Deal With Unhealthy Family Relationships

This week, I read a quote by Willard Scott in Google+. It said, "Positive feelings come from being honest about yourself and accepting your personality, and physical characteristics, warts and all; and, from belonging to a family that accepts you without question." Willard Scott.



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Looking for Love All in the Wrong Places

I was still seeing my boyfriend after my mother had told me I couldn't see him any more. he was my first love and I love him, at lease I thought I did anyway. he abused me, but I still love him. I couldn't hide it anymore. My best friend knew now my mother knew. I was no longer allowed to see him again. She would lock me in the house and hide the keys to the lock. She did everything she could to keep me from him, and nothing work.



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Organise A Slightly Weird But Definitely Unique Hen Night

If you want a unique hen night, you might just have to consider some slightly odd possibilities. Think 'outside the box' and there are so many options.



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A Unique Hen Night To Rejuvenate The Mind, Body and Soul

It may not be the most unique hen night idea, but the bride-to-be will thank you for a day of pampering. What more could a lady want from a day with her friends?



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Active And Unique Hen Night Ideas

If the bride just isn't into sweaty strippers or nightclubs consider a unique hen night full of action. There are so many options.



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My Boyfriend Has Weird Habits - Is He Normal?

Now that you have spent enough time with your boyfriend to learn his habits, here you are... wondering if they are weird or abnormal. Is there a way to know? Weird habits fall into 5 categories. Examine them and see where your boyfriend fits; then you must decide if it is normal and more, if you are able to accept them as loveable flaws that are a part of him.



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Living Together Before the 'I Do'

It's become the holy grail of how to move forward in relationships in our modern world; living together! What's in it for you, this living together arrangement?



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Celebrating the End of a Relationship

When you open up your heart to love and to feel, you will feel the same force of the loss of that relationship the same way you had felt love for that relationship. You did not love overnight. It took time to grow and to flourish. It also has nothing to do with how the other person may have felt about you. Your love was not conditional on how much or how little the other person loved you.



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Managing The Pain of Breakups

Breakups are challenging for most of us. However, on top of the heartbreak and grief of a breakup, we often make it worse by the things we say to ourselves. What are some of the things you tell yourself during a breakup that may be adding to the pain?



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Modern Social Intelligence

This is some short notes from a book called "Social Intelligence". It helped me a lot and I hope it will help others too.



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Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Get Back With Their Ex?

When a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly painful experience. And this doesn't even need to be a relationship was fulfilling or healthy; as it can be painful no matter how 'good' or 'bad' it was.



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Relationships: Does Our Childhood Define Our Expectations Of The Opposite Sex?

It is often said that people shouldn't have expectations, and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can't be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways.



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Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact?

While there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone's death. This is not to say that it won't have an effect on someone's wellbeing though.



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